Stay Together

“[…] A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12

boy and girl sitting on bench toy

You’ve heard the saying, “Love the one you’re with,” right? Or, maybe it’s a song… Either way, I think it speaks volumes. Too often, people think that the grass is greener on the other side, when in actuality, there isn’t even any grass at all. It’s all mud. That’s partly why I say that the couple who has been together for so long and has something really good worth fighting for should stay together and keep loving one another.

“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts. For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I really believe that God designed marriage to be for life – and between a man and a woman. I believe it because that’s what the Bible says (Matt.19:4-8). Unfortunately, it doesn’t always pan out that way. But, I encourage everyone who is going through a trying time in their relationship, and it’s otherwise really good: don’t give up on each other. Stay together. Build upon what you have. Grow in love. And persevere through the hard times.

For the couple that does, I think very highly of you both and think that it will make you stronger in remaining together through hard times. I support what you have; I want you both to be happy together, and I wish nothing but the best for you.

Please don’t let silly musings, assumptions, trivial matters, or another person (who probably was not even aware that they are a subject of contention) to come between you. If there are things that can be improved, I hope that you will work on them and become better together.

It’s only natural to go through some ups and downs in a relationship – particularly a marriage – and in life, in general. But it will pass, and when you stay together and help each other through the storms, it will only make your bond stronger (Eccl. 4:10).

In I Just Want To Go To Heaven, I discussed how my lord is my husband (Isaiah 54:5) and how I have chosen to dedicate what’s left of this life to fully making it to heaven. I’m not sitting around holding out for any man to come and save the day. I’ve already been saved, by the blood of Jesus when He washed my sins away in the watery grave of baptism. He made a way for me to have life; that’s what Jesus said of us all: He came so that we might have life and have it more abundantly (John 10:10). That’s a hard act to follow. I don’t expect or intend for anyone to try. That in conjunction with my severe mental illness is enough to  keep away  anybody at bay.

Yet, I still believe in marriage and a man and woman who are building a life together should do so through the thick of it. Some people intentionally try to tear apart something good. Don’t let them.

After going through my own experience of divorce and seeing the ripple effects and damage it can cause, you,  I say to anyone who is contemplating ending their relationship, I’d avoid at all cost, for you and for your family. Think about this long and hard, friends.

“Also, if two lie down together, they can keep warm; but how can one person alone keep warm?” – Ecclesiastes 4:10

It’s not uncommon for someone who feels alone and longs to have the feeling of home again that the comforting and secure embrace of the one brings, to look for it in whatever familiar place that they might in the slightest be able to experience a semblance of it. But there’s nothing like it. And when two are already together, they can keep warm, they can embrace one another and assure your love for one another.

A strong bond is not easily broken. It’s not something that I sit around and contemplate or conscientiously think about. There are so many other heavy things on my mind. When you take a metaphorical shovel and dig around in someone’s head, you’re liable to retrieve anything – thoughts from the past, imaginations, and possibly some from the present. Those things are nothing on which to base serious life decisions. The Word of the Lord is, though. It is full of wisdom. This is what it says of the man and wife:

“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate.” – Matthew 19:6 

So, that’s what I have to say about that. Take it, and don’t leave it.

I hope and pray that married couples will put their trust in God and bind together ever closer in unity. And for couples that have not obeyed the gospel, I urge you to. Believe in Jesus (Mark 16:16), confess that He is Lord (Rom. 10:9), repent of your sins (Luke 13:3), and be baptized for the forgiveness of your sins (Acts 2:38). Then you will be saved from death and eternal damnation, and the Lord will add you to His church (Acts 2:47). And that cord will no longer be made of just the two of you, but God will be at the center.

A cord with two links can easily be separated.

Is God the strong link in your chain?

One love.

“And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12

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